Being a Non-anxious Presence



It is understandable that we are stressed about this situation and we know from research that when we are stressed, we cannot learn. One of the ways to help our children relax is to model it for them. So I wanted to share a few pointers from the book: The Self-Driven Child: The Science and Sense of Giving Your Kids More Control Over Their Lives by Ned Johnson and William Stixrud - that I have studied with a group of AAS parents:

Being a non-anxious presence:

  • Make enjoying your child your priority

  • Don't fear the future

  • Commit to your own stress management

  • Make peace with your worst fears

  • Adopt a non judgmental acceptance

The good news is that calm is contagious, and it is one of the best ways to help our children avoid high levels of anxiety is to effectively manage our own. 

We hope you are having a wonderful holiday, spending time deepening your relationships with your loved ones.